Monday, 11 January 2016

In Sangat, the rapist is both hero and villain — and that's a problem


The Pakistani drama industry may have found its new favourite topic: rape.
We have to give TV producers credit for not shying away from addressing difficult social issues. In between the now routine doosri teesri biwi stories, the mismatched love affairs and soaps with 'mayka' or 'sasural' in their titles, there are always dramas with an original or challenging storyline.
Rape, in particular, is a highly important subject, given the steady rise of sexual assault awareness after the high-profile Nirbhaya case in neighbouring India and the steady stream of similarly tragic stories that haunt the Pakistani news cycle.
However, TV dramas often contribute to rape culture, rather than attempt to dismantle it. Hum TV's Sangat is an unfortunate example of this.

Sangat and its strange plot twist

The happily wedded couple of Sangat - Ashy and Adnan - see their life turn upside down – Publicity photo
Sangat is the story of Ashy (Saba Qamar) who is happily married to her college sweetheart Adnan (Mikaal Zulfikar). On a rare visit to her mother’s house, Ashy falls prey to her long-time admirer Shavez (Zahid Ahmed), who breaks in under the premise of a robbery and rapes her.
Ashy soon discovers that she is expecting a child and is forced to go through with the pregnancy by her mother. Neither her in-laws nor her husband suspect a thing and are ecstatic about the new addition to their family whom they name Sangat.
TV serials tend to follow an unfortunate formula in the treatment of rape: a happy family life is shattered and supposedly strong relationships are tested to breaking point. But a majority also try to portray the difficulties of the victim. One of the best dramas to explore this topic with the respect and gravity it deserves has been the award-winning drama, Roag.
Sangat, however, defies all norms (and logic) by trying to whitewash the rapist. Whatever commercial or clichéd faults dramas like Chup Raho orMain Gunehgaar Nahi had, one thing was for sure: the rapist was the bad guy.

The rapist in Sangat: Hero bhi, villian bhi?

In Sangat, everyone's nice to the rapist villian – Publicity photo
In what seems like an attempt to appear “different”, Sangat sets up the rapist to be as much of a victim of cruel circumstance as his prey. So far into the story we have learnt he suffered as a child, was brought up by a single father and at one point his mother was robbed at gunpoint.
What's more, the TV serial imparts his character with a hero-like desirability. Despite the fact that he is known to be good-for-nothing goonda type, his landlady swears that though she isn’t sure what he does outside the house, he enters their home with a modestly lowered gaze.
If anyone were in doubt of this rapist’s complete sharafat, the writer has added the character of Salma, the lovelorn daughter of Shavez’s landlord who throws herself at him with monotonous regularity.
Salma and her family desperately try to trap our hero – oops, I mean villian – into marriage, but he steadfastly maintains that “Main kissee aur sey mohabbat karta hoon“ (I love someone else) in Zahid Ahmed’s no doubt sonorous voice.

False, dangerous messages in Sangat

12 episodes down and apart from Shavez’s 'love' for his victim, writer Zafar Mairaj has given us no clue why this misunderstood paragon would actually commit such a heinous act.
The audience is left to conclude that this rape was about unrequited, obsessive love rather than a particularly evil act of premeditated violence. The whole story feeds into the myth that rape is about sex or lust or attraction, when the overwhelming evidence from studies on this subject indicate clearly that it is about dominance, power, control and humiliation.
The seeds of repentance do not come from Shavez’s realization of the horror of his actions but from the pain he sees he has caused the woman he “loves”. The writer does a great disservice to victims of sexual violence by romanticizing the rapist and his motivations.
The drama does get one thing right, however: many rapists (but not all) are known to their victims, not strangers. Shavez is the son of an old colleague of Ashy's mother and his assault is a carefully planned attack disguised by the robbery.
Much of the drama is then taken up with Shavez's regret, his tears and his many contrived meetings with the unfortunate Ashy.
The story sets up a dangerously false equivalency between the perpetrator’s need for forgiveness and the victim’s need to recover, placing the burden of resolution firmly on the victim’s shoulders. The completely baseless idea that the victim can only be free to live her life if she forgives this man is insinuated throughout the story.

No respite for the victim, Ashy?

Ashy's in-laws don't make her life any easier – Publicity photo
To be fair, the story does explore the victim’s painful recovery from the assault but again we are treated to the typical “zamana kiya kahey ga” mother so beloved of Pakistani dramas.
Despite being a highly educated woman of some wisdom and experience, Ashy’s mother oppresses her, warning her never to trust her husband or expect his support. Amazingly, Ashy cannot even bring herself to tell her mother the rapist’s identity.
Another beloved trope of Pakistani dramas is then dredged up in the form of the unreliable husband.
Ashy wants to share her terrible experience with her husband, but is cowed into silence when he thanks her for saving the “family’s honour”. He never wonders as to why his wife is so traumatised by an armed robbery, and seems more irritated bystander than loving husband, leaving Ashy so disappointed in him that she seriously considers leaving him.
The only person Ashy confides in is a psychiatrist who suffers from a huge compassion deficit and tells Ashy off for “distancing herself from her husband”.
She even asks Ashy whether she would forgive Adnan if he came to her after making a similar ghalti. Is rape just a ghalti, a mistake? Is suffering rape and asking for support equivalent to a man raping another person and asking for his wife’s support? Can a criminal and a victim command the same kind of empathy?
This mind boggling contradiction is presented to the audience as a moment of revelation and acceptance for Ashy, who now understands her strangely insensitive husband.
In contrast to Adnan’s unhelpful attitude, the writer allows the rapist Shavez to save Ashy and her child’s life by giving blood just at the right moment and reinforces this forced irony with dialogues like “Vo jis ka khoon aap ki ragho main daur raha hai" when referencing him.
Essentially the writer is building a case for the perpetrator’s acquittal from his crime, minimizing and mitigating his heinous actions. This story effectively emasculates the husband who is seen as obstructive, unhelpful and very possibly negative whenever he learns the truth.

Shavez has the universe on his side

In contrast to Ashy's plight, Shavez has a lot of help from the local Imam who gives him shelter and advises him on how to attain forgiveness. Ignorant of Shavez’s guilt, Ashy’s mother takes him under her wing and into her house, instead of using that time to focus on her daughter. Despite his disappointment in his son, Shavez’s father is always looking out for him, as is the ever hopeful Salma.
One is reminded of Paulo Coelho’s words “And when you want something, the entire universe conspires in helping you to achieve it." The Universe ofSangat is indeed conspiring to absolve Shavez of his guilt.
The strangest part of this story is that though Ashy looks at her attacker with contempt, she isn’t angry enough to confront him or even ask the most basic of questions: “Why did you do this?” or “Why me?”. Contrast this with the victims who fill the news risking life and limb begging for justice, while Ashy’s only demand is that Shavez get out of her life.
She will of course be punished for even that presumption of self-determination, and soon. In one of the most recent episodes, a desperate Ashy searches for Shavez as her child is in dire need of his blood for a lifesaving transfusion. However, this also drives home the point that once a woman carries her child with a rapist to term, her relationship with him will never end. In fact, it has just begun.

The team of Sangat

Director Kashif Nisar is no stranger to challenging material, having directed the award-winning Ullu Baraye Farukht Nahi. As can be expected from someone of his talent, he has managed to make a very compelling serial out of this flawed storyline and that is the real tragedy. Such a well-made serial should have been a great opportunity to raise awareness and inform the viewing public.
Saba Qamar is without doubt one of the industry’s better actresses and gives a rock steady performance as Ashy. Mikaal Zulfikar’s equally measured performance is the other saving grace. Sonia Mishal as Salma also manages to impress despite her clichéd role.
While Zahid Ahmed as Shavez works really well as the villain of the story, his performance as the penitent sinner lacks authenticity. When face to face with his prey, he may not be able to meet her eyes but away from her retains all the stubborn swagger of an overconfident man. True repentance requires humility, something sorely missing in Shavez’s character.
Perhaps the writer has blurred the lines so much that even Zahid Ahmed is confused; a recent post on his official Facebook page showed a picture of the masked Shavez with the completely inappropriate hashtag “#Herobhivillainbhi”. Hopefully this was a clueless admin and not the actor himself.

Missed opportunities

There are a lot of missed opportunities in Sangat. The OST is itself highly offensive ,with the lyrics 'Mera jism mera gunaah hai' (my body is my sin) and 'Maa e Maa sazaa hai sazaa hai' (oh mother, I am punished). It is the act that should be stigmatized; it is the perpetrator who should be punished. What a revolution it would be if instead of using these nauseating lyrics over the victim, they were played for the actual perpetrator.
Instead of playing to the audience’s worst fears and ignorance, the entertainment media should wake up to its responsibilities and think about enlightening and educating the masses.
Moreover, must every mother in every drama be as cruel and unfeeling as the ones in Sangat and Chup Raho? When will we see a woman who stands up for her child, if not in public then at least in private? When will we see a male character who is strong enough to support his wife through such a distressing life event? If we can have a repentant rapist, then why not a real man as a husband, one who despite his pain and misgivings, acts as his wife's covering?
Each time we reinforce such stereotypes, we do injustice to victims everywhere.

Wednesday, 6 January 2016

Star-struck Alia Bhatt confesses she's been obsessed with SRK since she was a girl

Be it a wedding or a game of antakshari, true Bollywood fans know that Shah Rukh Khan's songs will save the day. But who could have guessed that they were actually therapeutic for young Alia Bhatt?
The actress, who's next set to appear in a film with Shah Rukh Khan, told The Hindustan Times: "I would dance to songs like ‘Yeh larka hai deewana’ and ‘Koi mil gaya’. In fact, not many know that I even got the same haircut that Kajol sported in the film. I would also perform to some tracks from Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge (1995) and even to ‘Bole chudiyaan’ from Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham (2001)."
Talking about her impending onscreen romance with SRK, the actresses confessed to feeling nervous about sharing screen space with him this year: "I think I will die. I’ve been dancing to ‘Gerua’ in my bathroom since its release. Whenever I like a new song, I play it on loop and dance to it. That’s my therapy. I don’t need a psychiatrist when I have SRK’s songs!"
"Someone asked me, “Do you feel the pressure?” the actress continued. "And I said, 'I do, and sometimes you want to die because there is so much pressure.' Of course, it’s an exaggerated statement. I don’t mean that. What I mean is that sometimes, there’s too much pressure. But now I keep myself away from the constant pressure I was feeling. I want to enjoy this phase of my life."
Although still a new face in the industry Alia knows well how to cope up with stress: "I’ve realised that this isn’t the time for me to stress about my work. I have been acting for the past three years, and I have wanted to do this since I was three. So, I should enjoy the fact that I am finally doing it. I should be grateful about it, instead of thinking, “What will happen next?” That’s no way to live," she said.
While it might be a good year for Alia given that she's roped in with Shahrukh and Ranbir Kapoor for two separate films, she has no regrets over Shandaar's failure: "I don’t regret doing that film. When I signed it, I did so based on the script, and not because it was a film being made by Vikas (Bahl), who directedQueen (2014). So, now if Vikas comes to me, I am not going to say, “I won’t work with you, as we did a film together, which didn’t work.” That would be wrong on my part. I still stand by my film. Sometimes things work out well and sometimes they don’t. But the experience will always be special," she shared.
She also doesn't mince word when asked about dealing with failure at a young age: "Even at 30 or 40, if something doesn’t do well, it still hurts. If I pinch someone, the pain is going to be the same whether the person is young or old. The question is, “Do you cry about it, or learn and move on?” It’s the way you take it (failure). I wasn’t explaining, defending or pointing fingers. You can’t be ungrateful. I have to learn from it and keep all those things in mind when I am making film choices in the future," she added.

Confirmed: Deepika to head to Hollywood with XXX — Xander Cage Returns

While most rumours are baseless, some stem from the truth.
For a while now, it had been doing the rounds that Bollywood's sweetheart Deepika Padukone would be making her way to Hollywood. She added fuel to that fire when she uploaded this Instagram post where she has also taggedF&F main man Vin Diesel.
However, the guessing game has come to an end.
The director of the sequel to XXX: The Return Of Xander Cage, D.J. Caruso seems to be more forthcoming than she is. In a Twitter exchange, he confirmed that Deepika is in fact part of the cast and shooting for the movie will commence in January.

Monday, 28 December 2015

Bollywood is bigger than our local film scene but it's also impersonal, says Sonya Jehan



Being Noor Jehan's granddaughter, Sonya Jehan has had some pretty big shoes to fill from the get go. Perhaps that's why she'd avoided stepping into the limelight on home soil altogether, some assumed.
Until now.
"I don't think there was any conscious decision not to work in Pakistan, it just so happened that I was offered a very interesting role to play in India (she made her cinematic debut with Taj Mahal: An Eternal Love Story) and so I went there, ended up marrying an Indian. Now, I have a family there so I've done more work there since I live across the border now."
How does the so-called revived Pakistani cinema industry compare to the mammoth that is Bollywood?
"It doesn't compare. Obviously, Bollywood is much bigger but it's not as intimate. A lot of people that you work with there are working simultaneously on multiple projects so you don't really get the time to know people, other than your co-stars and director. On top of that, I usually have to fly from Delhi to Bombay, stay in a hotel. It's impersonal."
She adds, "Here, I work with a team that works and gels together like family and I go back home to my mother and my brother and have ghar ka khana. You don't do room service here."
However, even after all this time, Ho Mann Jahaan felt like an easy fit, explains the actress.
"I'd been away from Pakistan for so long that I didn't know much about the media and the cinema. When Asim approached me, it made sense for me to use this as the project to catapult me into unfamiliar territory because I've known him for a long time, we have that comfort level. Of course it helps that the script is so good and the character I was offered was that of an interesting woman."
Where does this interesting woman fit into the plot of a movie which has been hailed a coming-of-age story revolving around 3 university students?
While being careful not to give anything too major away, Jehan gives us some insight into the mysterious Sabina: "She's a very strong, mature, independent woman. She's extremely outspoken but at the same time, she's cool-headed. I'm not like that at all! I have quite a temper so as an actor, it was interesting for me, to play someone so serene."

I know Ho Mann Jahaan is going to do well and for now, that's what I'm excited about. In fact, I'd love to do another movie with Asim only!" laughs Jehan.


After having worked with bigwigs like SRK, Kajol and Soha Ali Khan, what was going through Jehan's head when being thrown into the mix with a crop of emerging actors?
"It was wonderful. It's a great team; so young and fresh, there's never a dull moment on set. Mahira is someone who's a total star, who's amazing at her craft. Adeel is just in his own world and he has these quirky, impactful one liners and quotes come out of the blue, he's a total riot. Sherry is the little boy next-door; bubbly and cheerful. it was a no-brainer for me, doing this movie."
She adds, "There was great energy all around, you know? I remember we sort of got stranded at the beach while we were shooting one day. Our tyres got jammed in the sand, we couldn't get out! That element of adventure and fun never wavered."
What's next for the doting wife and mother of two?
"I'm not someone who's a planner. I know the movie is going to do well and for now, that's what I'm excited about. If I get any offers after then I'd love to consider them. In fact, I'd love to do another movie with Asim only!" laughs Jehan.

Wednesday, 9 December 2015

I can't marry for 'a lot of reasons', says Hamza Ali Abbasi


There's more to Hamza Ali Abbasi than just politics and his deep concerns about protecting the morals of the nation.
Hamza Ali Abbasi also has a heart.
The actor/activist recently disclosed at a morning show that he "kind of [has] a soft corner for this one woman recently", but refused to reveal the identity of the mystery woman. He went on to flabbergast his legions of female fans and the nation's rishta-hunters by dismissing the prospect of marriage completely.
"Shaadi is a huge deal," he said, later adding that "I can't get married for a lot of reasons." He cited this as "the number one reason" for his break-ups in the past.
Gasp! Is Hamza a commitment-phobe?
He admits he's had quite a few relationships in the past, but not enough to fill "a juma bazaar".
"Women are very emotional... so they get disappointed that I can't marry them," he shared, talking about his failed relationships.

Friday, 27 November 2015

Here's what's hot and trendy at the Gul Ahmed Winter Clearance Sale

Winter is coming and it's bringing lots of sales with it!
One of the more exciting ones is the Gul Ahmed Winter Clearance Sale aka 'Epic Winter Carnival', which starts exclusively online today and in stores from Saturday.
The retail giant announced that an enormous range of products, from kurtis to bed linens, will be up for grabs featuring discounts as high as 70%.

Thursday, 19 November 2015

Full marks: TV drama Nazo portrays mental illness with sensitivity and grace

Mental illness is a topic that usually appears as a blip on our TV screens.
When a drama introduces a character with mental illness, it tends to veer towards sensationalism and/or crude depictions of 'abnormality'.
So, when a drama about special children tackles the subject in an even-handed, realistic manner, it is definitely worth taking note.
Nazo, which is currently airing on Urdu 1, is one such drama.
A girl suffering from mental illness, Nazo (Soniya Hussain), lives with her mother Tabassum (Atiqa Odho) and sister Samra (Zhalay Sarhadi). Taking care of Nazo has its own set of challenges, from her day-to-day care in the hands of able help to cordoning her off when visitors come home. Yet, they share moments of fun and laughter.

The story so far

Nazo doesn’t shy away from exploring the tensions of raising a mentally ill child right from the moment of birth.
Many mothers have to deal with the regressive attitudes of family and society at large, which tend to hold them responsible for giving birth to mentally ill children. This seeps into their psyche so that they end up blaming themselves.
Tabassum’s husband too taunts her until he dies in an accident, leaving Tabassum to fend for home and hearth.
Burdened by the demands of earning a living and taking care of both her daughters, Tabassum turns into a cold-hearted mother. Her raised voice and distant demeanor scare Nazo who has a near meltdown every time her mother is around.

Suffering from mental illness, Nazo lives with her emotionally unavailable mother Tabassum and caring sister Samra


Samra, sensing her mothers’ lack of affection towards Nazo, hardens towards her while trying to fill the maternal void in Nazo’s life. She believe that she has a lifelong commitment to her sister and associates this with the need to sacrifice everything for her happiness including the prospect of marriage.
Though during his lifetime Tabassum fought her husband over the idea of placing their daughter in a mental asylum, apparently she did send her away once, forever scarring her relationship with her elder daughter Samra. Though this was conveyed as a piece of throwaway dialogue, there seems to be so much unexplored territory here that I am crossing my fingers that Atiqa Odho’s character makes a reappearance to examine these ideas.
Atiqa Odho plays her part as the misunderstood and much maligned mother with incredible ease. It is a shame that her character isn’t afforded much of the nuance with which the others have been treated. There could be much more complexity to this role of a mother having to choose her work over care of her child as well as the tremendous guilt and social stigma such mothers have to face. Instead, Samra’s antagonism towards her mother for having chosen career and social commitments over her children seems to have a ring of truth.

Dysfunctional dynamics ground the drama

Atiqa Odho'a anti-maternal streak lends a different dimension to the mother-daughter relationships in Nazo – ScreengrabAtiqa Odho'a anti-maternal streak lends a different dimension to the mother-daughter relationships in Nazo – Screengrab
This tense and dysfunctional relationship between mother and daughter was actually the highlight of the first few episodes with Samra clinging on to her resentment by not bothering to tell her mother that Nazo was soon hospitalized after Tabassum left for a work trip to Dubai.
This kind of fraught relationship is welcome relief and a refreshing change from the cloying saccharine or unidimensional relationships we see on screen. There is an element of unresolved issues that serve to give us an insight into the characters and also create enough fission to keep the narrative going.
Later in the hospital, Samra is the lone care-giver for Nazo, which in turn piques Habeel (Ahmed Ali)'s curiosity about her situation. Given that boy-meets-girl scenarios in our dramas are a dime a dozen, it is to writer Samina Ijaz’s credit that none of these situations feel contrived. Also brownie points for not making them cousins!
Habeel’s genuine affection for Nazo wins over Samra. Despite her reservations and resolve to never marry, Samra sees Habeel as a way out of life under her mothers’ roof as well as possibly a new beginning.
Samra and Habeel are treated as adults making their own choices though taking life-altering decisions without so much as a conversation with their families was a bit much to swallow. Both of them throw their respective families into a tizzy by having Nazo stay with them, upsetting both Habeel’s divorced sister who lives with him and shocking Tabassum. Though here too, it has to be said that Samina Ijaz has a realistic way of handling her characters – they err and make mistakes, all too human mistakes and there is no judgement for what they do.

If there is one thing that Nazo gets right, it is the realism and authenticity of many of the situations that it portrays. There are moments of understanding, love and caring as well as moments of exasperation, helplessness and even anger at being forced into this situation


It helps too that both Zhalay Sarhadi and Ahmed Ali completely embody their roles. Zhalay love for Nazo is full of genuine warmth and affection and even at some of the scenes where she could go full tilt into melodrama, she comes across as believable and grounded and completely motivated by concern for her sister.
Ahmed Ali is a complete natural in front of the camera. While most men in our dramas are shown as a product of our patriarchal society, his Hadeel is refreshing change. A modern, well-rounded man who shoulders his responsibilities with dignity and patience, Ahmed Ali’s restrained performance is a highlight of this drama.

Realistic portrayals are refreshing

Habeel and Samra's marriage and baby complicates Nazo's lifeHabeel and Samra's marriage and baby complicates Nazo's life
As Habeel and Samra settle into married life, Samra still keeps her mother at a prickly distance ignoring her every overture. A hurt Tabassum decides to move to the US and away from her daughters. While Nazo settles into her new home, Samra’s pregnancy complicates her health and disrupts Nazo’s fragile balance.
If there is one thing that Nazo gets right, it is the realism and authenticity of many of the situations that it portrays. When Nazo disappears, Samra unleashes her wrath on Habeel for losing Nazo but conveniently forgets the time when Nazo slipped out of her own home on a rainy night.

Some may complain of the repetitiveness of certain scenarios as well as Nazo’s responses, but in caring for mentally ill patients a majority of time revolves around looking after their basic needs


It is easy to blame others and difficult to accept that these situations happen all too often. The tendency of disabled children to wander is one of the most common things that families have to deal with. The tension between Samra and Tabassum, the relationship with Nazo and Alia her full-time care giver, Habeel’s sisters reservations, the conversations between the help all speak to the very real ways in which each person reacts to and manages these situations.
There are moments of understanding, love and caring as well as moments of exasperation, helplessness and even anger at being forced into this situation. It is an excellent etching out of familial relationships that are all bound by differing degrees of expectation, commitment, love as well as annoyance and resentment.
Some may complain of the repetitiveness of the scenarios as well as Nazo’s responses but a majority of time and care devoted to the mentally disabled revolves around looking after their basic needs. Though, given that she has now cut herself on broken glass three times, the next person to serve her juice in a hand-cut crystal glass should be packed off immediately!

Kudos to the producers' vision and creativity

Nazo is an engaging drama dealing with issues of mental illness with a kind of sensitivity rarely seen on screen. Hats off to the producers Fahad Mustafa and Dr Ali Kazmi for touching on this important topic. The whole team seems to have really done their research which comes across in the writing as well as the performances.

Soniya Hussain as the protagonist Nazo delives a powerful performance. Everything from her physical mannerisms, stiff posture, to her genuine delight are played with conviction. Soniya Hussain is a wonderfully talented actress who seems to be constantly challenging herself


Soniya Hussain as the protagonist Nazo delivers a powerful performance. Everything from her physical mannerisms, stiff posture, to her genuine delight are played with conviction. Soniya Hussain is a wonderfully talented actress who seems to be constantly challenging herself and exploring a range of characters and that is helping hone her craft.
Nazo shows Soniya Hussain in a challenging role and she delivers a powerful performanceNazo shows Soniya Hussain in a challenging role and she delivers a powerful performance
Kudos too to the crew as well for such a polished product. DOP Faraz Khan creates interesting visual perspectives that serve to tell a visual story rather than for mere flourishes, as well as to the editors for creating a fluid and fast paced narrative.
Both director Aabis Raza and writer Samina Ijaz seem to be on the same page with regards deftly handling sensitive material as well as creating a taut narrative. There are also elements of a thriller when we suspect the worst of Farid baba while Nazo is in his care. Not cutting between Nazo’s whereabouts when she went missing heightened the tension between the characters as well as the audience keeping us guessing and engaged at the same time.
In the last episodes, things seem to be unraveling and fast. Habeel’s sister upset by her brothers careless remark leaves his home with her son. Samra, in the throes of a difficult pregnancy, finds herself getting annoyed and reacting to Nazo. With the birth of her baby and Samra facing the challenges of post-partum depression, things are at a turning point for all the characters and their relationships.
Sadaf Siddique is freelance writer, film and drama enthusiast and sometime drama queen not necessarily in that order.